Is SOCIAL ACCEPTANCE that much necessary? By Farheen S.

What if I tell you social acceptance is not that much important as much your own acceptance of you? 

With this advancement and modernization of the world, the discrimination and acceptance factors are also rising with quite a speed in our societies. If we want to wrap the “acceptance and discrimination” in beautiful words, we can call it a competition because some of us call it a competition truly.  Our society has transformed itself into a sort of race completion. No one wants to lag behind in this contest. It does not matter what we are leaving behind. It does not matter that we are leaving behind our actual goals, our actual desires. It does not matter that we are forfeiting ourselves. It does not matter we are getting conscious of ourselves so much that sometimes we get afraid of what will happen if we cannot get accepted in this society.  Yes, exactly we are covering our faces with a mask. 

A mask that is acceptable to others. What about our hearts? Oh, we do not need to take care of our hearts. Our hearts do not need a mask because others cannot see it. We just have to cover ourselves apparently. Our inside does not matter. Take a time and think. Yeah it’s true others cannot see your heart but can you not feel it. Do you not feel a heavyweight in your heart?  

We all are looking for our differences in each other but we are not putting efforts in trying to find our similarities. We do not strive to stay connected; we are just striving to get accepted. Are you considering yourself so much small that you are leaving the judgment of you to others? You are not even thinking that these “others” are capable or not to judge you.  I am not saying that to have a desire to get accepted is not important, I agree it is important but not that much that we have to leave our free will, we have to lose ourselves, we have to leave behind our actual personality or we have to divert from our original line.  It is not that much necessary that we give permission to others to get into our space and persuade us into different things that are totally opposite of “being ourselves”.  Everyone is doing something because others are doing it or it’s in a trend. I have even signed up for twitter the first time by thinking that everyone has a twitter account, I should have too.

Chase this race but do not get so much ahead that you cannot get back to yourself. I will give Facebook as an example. When we post something on our wall, we wait for hours to get more likes, comments, and shares. But if we do not get likes to our expectancy, we start to think that there

is something wrong in your post or it is boring. When you see someone with so much happiness in his/her picture, you sometimes start to think that you are the only one having problems in your life. But what we are not paying attention to is that when we post our pictures, we put ourselves best on it.  We wear that sugarcoated beautiful mask.

There is a way in which we can win this competition by being our best. That way is:

 “Be a Jug not a glass” 

Change yourself. Do not let this social acceptance become your key to comfort. Be careful in your social groups, if someone has this type of acceptance problem; try to share your thoughts with that person so that he/she can share too. Sometimes we ignore this type of situation by thinking that why we interfere in other’s personal matter. Maybe that person is waiting for your one step. We do not have any idea when this discrimination in our society starts to take the form of ignorance.